'Selfishness' means being concerned only about one's own interests and showing
complete disregard for others welfare. Yes, it can be said that Kisa Gotami was being
'selfish in her grief'. In the light of her tragedy, she was unable to see that death is
something that strikes all things living. In this sense, she was selfish. However, for every
person, his/her tragedy is something personal and it prevents him/her from looking at
the tragedy from a universal or general point of view. If we take the usual sense of the
word 'selfish', then calling Kisa Gotami selfish would be inappropriate, because every
person becomes selfish in his/her grief.